Believe it or not, karma is real. It gets people who mistreat others and do nothing to change their mentality and behavior. If they carry on like nothing happened, they’re bound to make the same mistakes and offend the wrong person. When they cross paths with someone who doesn’t turn the other cheek, they face instant karma for their lack of ability to learn and grow.
They’re forced to suffer and have no choice but to be more mindful of other people’s wants, needs, and feelings.
Most people believe only in one kind of karma – the instant one. They think karma strikes people only instantly for hurting their feelings and complicating their lives. They don’t understand that karma isn’t influenced by personal feelings and that it hits people when they refuse to do anything to alter their attitude and things that need fixing.
When they keep making the same errors over and over again and act like it’s perfectly normal, they eventually aggravate the wrong person, bring out the worst in that person, and get taught a valuable lesson. A lesson that they’re not alone in this world and that other short-fused people won’t tolerate their self-centered and inconsiderate behavior.
Karma doesn’t care about people’s status, how much money they make, how attractive they are, and how quickly they’re able to replace people. All karma cares about is people’s integrity and behavior. These two things are interconnected and determine whether a person has good, mediocre, or bad karma.
Generally speaking, the better the karma, the more respect and recognition a person gets for his or her kindness, generosity, and selflessness. And contrarily, the worse the karma, the more notorious a person is and the bigger the chance that someone will take matters of justice into his or her own hands and punish the person with bad karma.
Mind you, the punisher is a human being, not the God of karmic justice. People feel hurt and victimized by those with bad karma (those who mistreat them) and react negatively to them. Some verbally express pain, anger, and discontent whereas others (the most impulsive ones) take action and physically deal with loud, obnoxious, and immoral people.
They fight them head-on and make sure they don’t hurt another person ever again. They do this by hitting them, calling them names, threatening them, ruining their reputation online or at work, suing them, warning the people they date, and doing their best to ruin their lives.
Luckily, you don’t have to get personal with your ex. He or she may have hurt you badly, but there are plenty of people willing to hurt your ex for you. They have less patience and worse karma than you, so they’re willing to stoop to your ex’s level and show your ex not to mess with them.
If you’re expecting karma to get your ex, rest assured that karma will get your ex. It will hit your ex not when you want it to but when enough bad karma has built up for your ex to receive his or her punishment. You may think that your ex is ready for karma after cheating, manipulating, lying, and/or dumping you, but that’s not enough for your ex to get paid a visit by karma.
For karma to come knocking on his or her doors, someone other than you and your friends and family must get tired or annoyed by your ex’s behavior and decide to confront your ex. Someone must get treated terribly by your ex and in return, show your ex that he or she can’t treat people badly and get away with it.
Your ex can get away temporarily but not forever. This is because your ex won’t change his or her personality and ways of responding to negativity. If anything, your ex will think he or she is unstoppable and that he or she can do the same thing to someone else.
Unfortunately for your ex, your ex will learn his or her lesson the hard way. But before that happens, your ex will waste his or her time blaming others for his or her unhappiness and bad/impulsive actions. Your ex will keep thinking others are at fault until he or she is finally confronted and forced to face karma.
Rest assured that this day will come. Your ex didn’t just treat you badly one time and learn his or her lesson. If your ex was capable of doing something nasty once, he or she is capable of doing it again. All your ex needs is a situation similar to the one he or she encountered with you.
People don’t learn their lessons by cheating, monkey-branching, and feeling happy. They learn their lessons when they get the short end of the stick and suffer immensely. That’s when they realize that negative actions have consequences and that they’ll have to change if they want to avoid facing them in the future.
Besides, if your ex is as immature as a toddler, your ex could get karma way before he or she gets to destroy and abandon another relationship. Your ex could show the person he or she is with unattractive traits and get dumped when the new person has run out of care and patience. That would force your ex to face karma for ignoring the need to grow and thinking everything would go according to plan.
So bear in mind that your ex probably won’t suffer while you want him or her to suffer. Your ex will suffer when you’ve picked yourself back up and given your ex enough time to recreate the situation he or she had with you. It could take months or years for that to happen. It depends on who your ex gets involved with and what that person does to punish your ex for thinking he or she will tolerate abuse or disrespect.
Karma will get your ex whether you believe in karma or not. As soon as your ex tries the same thing on someone less patient, your ex will get punished for expecting the man or woman to bend to his or her will.
In this post, we discuss why your ex will get hit by karma and when you can expect it to happen.
When will karma get my ex?
Karma will get your ex when you and your ex least expect it. It will hit your ex like a ton of bricks out of the blue when your ex invites a person into his or her life who doesn’t tolerate mean and selfish behavior. That person will punish your ex for continuing to mistreat people and thinking no one would retaliate.
Your ex will immediately get his or her expectations crushed and feelings hurt and be forced to open his or her eyes and see that people have boundaries he or she mustn’t dare to cross. Just because you didn’t retaliate, take revenge, and/or show your ex you won’t tolerate nasty behavior, doesn’t mean others won’t.
Other less patient and less passive people will defend themselves by hitting your ex where it hurts the most. This could be his or her ego, property or finances, health, reputation, or emotional well-being. Hurt and victimized people can cause harm in many ways. But generally speaking, the less developed they are morally and the more hurt they feel, the bigger the chance they’ll take things personally and do something the wrongdoer won’t recover from easily.
In other words, the wrongdoer will face instant karma and have no choice but to think about his or her thoughts and actions.
When we hear the word karma, we tend to think about the physical consequences of people’s actions. We imagine something bad happening to people (something like tripping on a sidewalk, getting hit by a car, losing a wallet, or falling ill. We forget that karma doesn’t punish people randomly. When random bad things happen to them, it’s purely by coincidence.
We say it was karma just because they were mean and unfair to us—even though the effect was completely unrelated to our problems with them. For it to be their fault, it has to be related to something they ignored or refused to do or change.
For example, if people eat a lot of junk food and gain weight, the cause of their weight gain (the effect) is unhealthy food. Excessive or unhealthy eating mames them put on extra weight, leaving them with no one but themselves to blame. And the same goes for karma.
Karma gets people specifically for the things they did to hurt people. Let me reiterate. It gets them for acting mean, rude, or selfish, which in turn causes people to react emotionally and vengefully. When they cause problems and pain for people and fail to take accountability for their actions or inactions, they give their victims emotional reasons to hurt them back.
Of course, not everyone strikes back, but many people do. They show they feel hurt and angry and that they want their perpetrator to feel similarly. Vengeance helps them get even, gives them power, and eases their pain.
The reason why exes get karma is because they blame others and refuse to make healthy changes and improvements. They think of themselves as victims and expect their lives to get better by getting involved with someone else. They have no idea that replacing their ex with someone new won’t solve their problems. It will shove their issues under the rug until they get to know the new person and experience relationship challenges and difficult emotions.
That’s when they’ll act the same way as before and force the new person to express pain or discontent. Of course, every person expresses difficulties differently, but when dumpers feel victimized and refuse to improve, they eventually encounter a strong person who takes them on and shows them hell.
Your ex may not be a narcissist or the worst person in the world, but your ex could still get hit by karma. If your ex cares about his or her conscience, your ex will eventually process relief and start feeling guilty about leaving or the method by which he or she left you.
If your ex left you for someone else, ignored you, blocked you, or was mean to you, your ex could doubt his or her morality for months or years. This depends on your ex’s self-awareness and conscience. A guilty conscience could prevent your ex from thinking of himself or herself as a moral person and make it hard for your ex to forgive himself or herself.
This may not be the karma of your choice, but it could still hurt your ex. It may be happening right now. It often happens to people who develop a connection behind their partner’s back and leave their partner for someone else. Such people often experience a ton of guilt and reach out to assuage it.
Some apologize, whereas others, check up on their ex and forgive themselves when they see their ex is doing okay.
Your ex could also get hit by karma if your ex doesn’t find what he or she is looking for. For example, if your ex gets into a new relationship (or multiple relationships) but fails miserably, your ex could keep getting hurt over and over again. Your ex’s karma would be failure or continuous failures to learn and improve from mistakes.
As I mentioned before, karma comes in different forms. Sometimes, it comes in the form of unwanted emotions, such as guilt, shame, or regret, whereas other times, it arrives as a challenging situation or a setback that forces the perpetrator to confront the consequences of his or her actions.
Many times, it’s unpredictable and forces people to reap what they sow. People with a conscience experience guilt and/or shame. As for people with poor or no conscience, they repeat the same mistakes and face people’s wrath.
There’s no way to avoid karma.
Dumpers don’t learn and evolve by mistreating others or without suffering. Dumpers consider themselves victims, so they keep their mentality and get in trouble when they find themselves in a similar situation.
So whether your ex knows that he or she has hurt you or lacks self-awareness and the understanding of what he or she did, have no doubt that karma will get your ex. It will hit your ex when your ex hurts and angers the wrong person or when your ex stops feeling elated and experiences guilt or second thoughts.
Your ex might one day want you back. When that happens, you may not want your ex back. Your detachment and rejection could be your ex’s delayed karma.
The interesting thing about karma is that you won’t know when it hits your ex. You may not hear from your ex and think your ex got away without facing the consequences of his or her actions even though your ex is about to receive karma or has already gotten punished. You might convince yourself karma doesn’t exist and that some people escape karma and live happily until the end of their lives.
They may indeed live happy lives, but that doesn’t mean that happiness will last forever. When your ex faces problems, your ex will do the same thing to someone else.
Maybe your ex won’t get as hurt and rejected as you want your ex to get, but that’s not something you can control. Your ex would have to get attached as much or more than you and be super emotionally invested to go through the kind of suffering you went through. But your ex will nonetheless face karma and be forced to deal with the consequences of his or her actions.
It’s not a matter of if but when.
You probably won’t care about your ex and won’t want your ex to suffer when your ex finally gets karma. You’ll be in a better mental space and won’t think about the injustice you’ve endured because of your ex.
But right now, you probably can’t see that happening. You want your ex to get karma for dumping you and turning your life upside down. Just keep in mind that if you want vengeance too badly, you could get karma yourself. You could do something to hurt your ex, fall ill from uncontrolled anger, delay your ability to date someone new, and waste your time thinking about your ex.
Having said that, here’s when karma will get your ex.
Karma doesn’t follow a fixed timeline. It can hit your ex days after the breakup or years later when your ex encounters similar issues with someone else. Try not to focus too much on karma getting your ex. As badly and quickly as you want it to hurt your ex, remember that it will get your ex when the time is right and that it won’t make you feel good for long.
Soon, you’ll forget that it ever ever happened and move on with your life.
The power of letting go
When my ex broke up with me and refused to talk and give me closure, I wanted my ex to get hit by karma too. I wanted her to suffer for complicating my life and hurting my feelings and self-esteem. For weeks, I hoped that something would happen to her and allow me to tell her “I told you so.”
I didn’t realize that revenge and thoughts of karma were keeping me obsessed with my ex, giving my ex control over me, and wasting my self-improvement time. It didn’t improve my life in the slightest, which I, unfortunately, realized way too late, almost a month into no contact. Had I realized it sooner, I would have focused harder on improving myself and less on waiting for my ex to encounter problems and pain.
I know it feels good to to see your ex unhappy and connect your ex’s unhappiness with your absence, but ask yourself if your ex’s unhappiness does anything positive for you. Does it make you happier, healthier, or wealthier? The thought of seeing your ex sad and hurt probably gives you a temporary boost of validation, but other than that, it doesn’t do a thing.
Vengeance is something you want just to feel less unwanted and miserable.
It’s okay to want to heal, but there are better ways to go about it. Better ways include cutting your ex out of your life, working on yourself, hanging out with friends and family, focusing on hobbies and interests, journaling your difficult thoughts and feelings, and signing up for therapy. You’ll benefit more if you focus on yourself rather than your ex’s punishment.
Remember that your main task as a dumpee is to heal and detach from your ex. You must get yourself back and improve so you don’t get a dose of your karma.
My advice is to find a way to get your ex out of your head and you’ll see that your ex doesn’t matter anymore. That will feel much better than any desire to see your ex fail and get hurt. When you get over your ex, you’ll free yourself from the ghost of your ex and live the kind of life you deserve to live.
So get to work. Do what it takes to forgive your ex and let go of him or her. Letting go will set you free from the pain and obsession of wanting your ex to get hit by karma.
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